New psychology research shows the surprising romantic advantage of antagonistic narcissism

June 13, 2026 - 02:30

A surprising new study in the field of psychology suggests that a certain type of narcissism might actually help people land a second date. The research, which used a speed-dating format, found that individuals displaying antagonistic narcissism received more requests to meet again compared to those with other self-centered traits.

Antagonistic narcissism is characterized by high levels of competitiveness, a sense of entitlement, and a willingness to exploit others. This stands in contrast to vulnerable narcissism, which involves insecurity and defensiveness, or agentic narcissism, which relies on charm and a desire for admiration. The study observed real-time interactions between strangers, tracking who expressed interest in a follow-up date.

The results showed that the pushy, competitive behavior of antagonistic narcissists was often perceived as confidence and assertiveness in the short, high-pressure setting of a speed date. They were more likely to take control of the conversation and project an image of high status. Meanwhile, vulnerable narcissists, who may come across as needy or anxious, and agentic narcissists, whose charm can feel superficial, failed to generate the same level of romantic interest.

However, researchers caution that this advantage is likely short-lived. While the initial spark may be stronger, the negative aspects of antagonistic narcissism, such as a lack of empathy and a tendency to devalue partners, tend to damage relationships over time. The study highlights a gap between what attracts people in a first impression and what sustains a healthy, long-term partnership.